"There Is Dignity In Hardwork"
There are a lot of reasons not to work; difficulty, uncertainty, duration, etc. so many that sometimes it can seem that there is no merit to working. More often than not, we value the moment more than the future. We forget that the future is also “a moment”, but not for our current selves, but for our future selves. We watch motivational videos and speeches to get us revved up to work hard, only to put that energy into memes and social media. Hard work, by definition, is not easy. It needs a direction. Just as we discussed in the last article on Purpose, we need to find a strong enough goal that will validate the amount of effort we put into something.
“I’LL DO IT WHEN I FEEL LIKE IT”
I was such a postponer, I kept telling myself, “I will do X when I felt like it”. For some weird reason, I believed that being motivated made the work easier- that the work would magically become easier to tackle when I felt like working. Here is a little secret- IT DOESN’T!
There are sometimes when you have to do things even when you do not feel like doing them and this applies to more than just working. If you often feel approach anxiety with women, it is the same in principle; you believe you cannot approach the woman because the conditions are not in your favor. We would rather wait until she is not with her friends, or we feel more confident, or we feel motivated before taking action.
There are things you have to do, and you know full well that you need to do them. For me, there is a voice that tells me the things I need to do, and the worst thing is that it is a very logical voice. If I try to convince myself that it is ok to procrastinate, this voice hits me with extremely logical counter-arguments that I have no choice but to listen, a bit similar to Jiminy Cricket from Pinocchio. One statement that always reverberates within me and motivates me is-
“If you cannot do it now, why would you think you'd be able to do it later?”
If you are weak today, you will be weak tomorrow. If you are scared today, you will be scared tomorrow. If you are lazy today, you will be lazy tomorrow. Nothing gets easier tomorrow.
“IS IT EVEN WORTH IT?”
Anything and everything worth achieving will be difficult. This is a fact we all need to accept. There is no easy mode. Many people focus on the results rather than the process, so much so that it becomes easy to disconnect success from hard work. Not all hard workers are successful, but all successful people are hard workers.
It is easy to get discouraged, especially when you see individuals who live a luxurious life thanks to their family or connections. We use these individuals as justifications to being mediocre, and ignore those who became exceptional through their own efforts. Rather than envy that which you do not have, be grateful for what you do have and think about how you can use what you have to become great. If you ever feel discouraged, always remember that there are people who have and will continue to become great with even less than what you have.
To become a man capable of great things, there are three things you need; Purpose, Ambition, and Drive. I have done separate articles on each of these, detailing why they are important and how you can develop them. These three factors, along with a good work ethic, develops a man’s masculine core.
Think of the men you admire, they likely possess these qualities. These men show you an attainable ideal which you can strive for. I use the word “attainable” because we are all human. Though we have our differences, they do not largely affect a person's ability to succeed.
“I’LL DO IT LATER”
Let us say the distance between point A and point B is 10 miles. Three guys have to go from A to B. The first guy, Adam, starts walking as soon as they were allowed to go. The second guy, Bob, rested for a few hours, then began sprinting. The last guy, Carl, slept for half the day before he started walking.
Carl started very late. He was persistent for the first 3 miles, but when he realized that he could not see the other two after coming so far he became discouraged, dragging his feet until he came to a stop.
Bob started a bit late, but since he was sprinting he covered quite a bit of ground very quickly. The problem was he had to rest for 1 hour for every 2 miles he covered since he was not in the best shape.
The first guy, Adam, calmly walked the entire 10 miles without needing to stop. Since he was not tired, he could take in the scenery and even make short detours.
You can guess who arrived first. Many men wait for their “lucky break” before they take action. They believe that if they start at the “right time” the distance they need to cover will be shorter. Greatness is a destination, you can be Adam, Bob, or Carl, but you will still have to cover the same distance. You can argue that all men are not born equal- and this is true, but YOUR distance to greatness is still finite. You can choose to start now or later, the only difference will be when you get there (and hopefully you have enough time to get there).
Let us know in the comments what you have always wanted to pursue and why.